Episode Transcript
Do you want the person you have your eye on? And why?
These two questions should be addressed, which hold the key to understanding ourselves and our relationships. But what if we dared to delve into them? Could we uncover a more profound truth about ourselves and our desires?
Our programming up to age five, which refers to the beliefs and behaviors we learn during our early childhood, can often lead us to victimize ourselves in every aspect of our lives. For instance, if we were raised in an environment where love was conditional, we may unknowingly push away potential partners due to a deep-seated belief that we are unworthy of love.
Thoughts are energy. If they weren't, why do negative thoughts affect our energy levels?
Let's consider an experiment using two tuning forks of the same resonance. When one tuning fork is struck and vibrates, the other fork of the exact hertz vibrates through the airwaves. This experiment demonstrates the concept of resonance, where two objects with the same frequency can influence each other's vibrations.
The importance here is that this same phenomenon happens in all things. Have you ever met someone with whom you immediately get along or don't? Harmonic unity is a state where two individuals' energies align, creating a harmonious interaction. It's like two tuning forks of the same resonance vibrating in sync.
Harmonic resonance, the state where two frequencies align and amplify each other, is irreplaceable for authentic, lasting communication. It's like two musical notes that, when played together, create a beautiful harmony. This resonance allows for deep understanding, empathy, and connection in relationships.
So, you can see how important choosing someone you resonate with is.
We often pursue a mate or associate based on our unfulfilled needs or wants from childhood.
Several of my clients are married and have multiple children. Not because they had considered the responsibility and commitment. Instead, it was a substitute for love or the feeling of self-worth that was not obtained in the family collective. This choice, driven by unfulfilled needs from childhood, often leads to a lack of fulfillment in the relationship, which can result in emotional distress and dissatisfaction.
Unfortunately, this can be catastrophic in the long term. But here's the hopeful part: have the power to break these cycles. Many of these relationships end with harmful emotional consequences, but we can change that. Families often continue these cycles for decades, but we can choose a different path.
On a side note, one should give themselves a few years of the relationship before having children. We can give ourselves a chance to enjoy each other. And if it doesn't work out, no children will suffer. People's having children early, of course, is a personal choice.
One of the greatest assets of excellent communication is listening. If someone feels comfortable, they will open up to you. We can take this opportunity to find out who they are.
Additionally, if we don't get physically intimate before knowing someone, we won't muddy the water. Most of us have a difficult time separating rational and emotional based decisions. Hormones excreted during the intimacy of any level can become addictive.
Anyone who has experienced a harmful relationship knows how negatively detrimental it can be. 90% of all mental and physical illnesses originate from stress. When stress originates in the home, it becomes inescapable. When we exert self-inflicted stress, we can cause severe mental issues.
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
It is vital to learn your mate so you can cater to their likes and dislikes. And allow them to know your likes and dislikes. Make sure that you do things together. Only sometimes extravagant things are done so that the value of the relationship is based on the person and not on materialism.
Of course, this, too, is a personal choice. I had a client who was perfectly content to exchange company for compensation. Relationships never have a one-size-fits-all.
Okay, so you have made a positive choice and believe you can make an honest commitment. Nothing is guaranteed, but you have given yourself an honest chance.
Please join me on the next episode. We will explore the secrets of cultivating and maintaining an excellent relationship.
So, my friends, create an enjoyable life for yourselves and the people you surround yourself with.
Always be the best version of yourself. Love Yourself. You are Not Alone. You are relevant and worthy.
How about that?
