Episode Transcript
Are you tired of being told who you should be? We don't have to go very far to feel like we should be something different.
We open a bill and think we need to make more money or see something someone else has and feel we need more. We see someone else's child making better grades or being better on a sports team, and we think our child needs to be more, and we need to step up.
And heaven forbid we open our emails or get on a social media platform before we realize we have put ourselves in a derogatory mental state. We may even curse God for making us so terrible.
I am here to tell you it's all lies. Of course, if you are a mass murderer or a person who causes other people malicious misery and harm, this post doesn't apply to you. At least not in these areas because stopping this behavior would be in your health and humanity's best interest.
Firstly, you are an incredible being full of untapped potential. Secondly, you have achieved so many amazing things already. Thirdly, you will only be content and happy if you embrace gratitude.
You will always be bitter and contemptuous because there will always be someone lesser or more significant than you. (In your eyes.)
You may be saying I haven't done anything. I need what I want; I want to be more intelligent, more attractive, and more prosperous. None of this is absolute. And look how incredible you are for making it this far.
Someone who can make it without a lot of money is more creative, innovative, and resilient than someone who has piles of cash.
Studies show that there is no difference between these people and the wealthy regarding happiness beyond providing for our basic needs. You have to do more with less. People who have made it from nothing are smarter and more innovative than people born into money.
I hope you see a healthier perspective. Some people spend billions of dollars on plastic surgery and, often, with disastrous results mentally and physically because of a lack of self-acceptance. If that same person were born blind, they would be perfectly content with their appearance.
Comparison is a one-way ticket to mental hell. It's worse than cancer. Comparison will eat you up one cell at a time. This kind of self-torture always ends badly for the person and everyone and things around them.
Greed, hatred, envy, and jealousy are the worst plagues on man. All of these are at the foundation of all human suffering.
The worst thing is that these are the tricksters for the substitute of happiness, calling to us like the mythical sirens of old to turn our life ships towards the rocks, never to be seen again. As the saying goes, "All that glitters is not gold."
If you are terrified to go outside without makeup, you will probably attract someone who finds you unattractive without makeup. If you only approach people with your wealth, you will attract people who have no other use for you.
Everyone's looks fade with time, and money comes and goes. Cars, clothes, shiny things, and all material things get old, broken, and passed into obscurity.
I'm not saying that these things aren't pleasant to experience; don't forget that none of them are the real you. There are way too many people who are miserable and mentally traumatized by selling out to these falsehoods.
Kindness towards others gives us mental, emotional, and physical health. These attributes will attract and maintain fulfilling lifelong relationships. (Of course, you must be kind to yourself so you don't pick up predators.)
Gratitude will enable us always to be content as we travel life's highways and bi-ways. There will always be great times and times that could be better, but you can weather any storms with grace, composure, and dignity.
Resilience allows us to take on any challenge without freaking out or making bad and erratic moves. We can hang on in there, knowing that we have the power to make things better and handle things until that time.
All of us are blessed with these gifts to some extent. However, life and others can influence us to see their disillusioned versions of ourselves. Their warped perceptions and lies can become our truths, robbing us of the beauty of being who we are.
None of us were born to be owned or controlled for the entertainment or use of others. If there are helpful things about ourselves we would like to adopt or develop, we should pursue them with grace and courage—but not with vengeance, anger, self-hate, or self-deprecation.
Millions of flowers, plants, trees, animals, and people exist. They are all incredible in their way. A tree, flower, animal, and contented person strives for one thing only: to be themselves.
Take the time to embrace, love, and be compassionate towards your fabulous self. Remember, no one on this planet can be better at being you than you.
Be you, and don't be distracted by others being who they are.
Well, my dear friends and fellow earth dwellers, until next time.
Always be the best version of yourself. Love Yourself. You are Not Alone. You are relevant and worthy.
How about that?
