Ep-12 What Do You Want and How to Get It? (Are You Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired?)

Great day to everyone. I hope you are finding fulfillment and contentment in the life you have created for yourself. And welcome to Episode Twelve. Today, we will ask ourselves what we want and how to get it. Although this is a simple question, it carries a critical forethought. How can you or I accurately know what we want if we have yet to find out who we are? And if we don't thoroughly find out if we truly want something, we run the risk of working hard for nothing. So we will start with Who are we? I mentioned in several previous episodes about a core values evaluation. The core values evaluation will allow you to realize the primary mindset of who you are. And the attached values have certain tendencies associated with them. Again, you can gain this through me at www.PhoenixRevelationsLifeCoachingSupport.com or another source. Secondly, if you have a journal or diary, revisit either and write down reoccurring themes and actions. There are always noticeable patterns. If you don't have either, go back in your mind and write down your actions during specific occurrences and interactions with others. Today, I will introduce you to another helpful tool, the Enneagram. The Enneagram has many valuable functions for our lives, so let's dive in. Are you ready to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery? Look no further than the Enneagram, a powerful tool that delves deep into the intricacies of human personality. This ancient system, rooted in wisdom and insight, offers a captivating roadmap to understanding ourselves and others on a whole new level. The Enneagram is not just another personality test; it's a dynamic framework that reveals the core motivations, fears and desires that drive our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. By identifying your Enneagram type, you gain profound insights into your unique strengths, blind spots, and growth opportunities. But the Enneagram isn't just self-awareness. It goes beyond empowering you to build better relationships, both personally and professionally. Armed with a deeper understanding of the nine distinct Enneagram types, you'll unlock the keys to effective communication, empathy, and collaboration. Imagine the impact you can have when you truly connect with others on a soulful level! Whether you're seeking personal growth, looking to enhance your leadership skills, or aiming to create harmonious teams, the Enneagram is your secret weapon. It provides a powerful lens through which you can navigate life's challenges, make conscious choices, and cultivate meaningful connections. So, are you ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation? Unleash the power of the Enneagram and unlock your true potential. Embrace your unique gifts, understand your blind spots, and create a life filled with purpose, authenticity, and deep fulfillment. Let the Enneagram be your guide on this extraordinary adventure of self-discovery. Your journey starts now! The Enneagram has nine basic descriptors. #1. The Perfectionist or Reformer. #2. The Helper or Giver. #3. The Achiever or Performer. #4. The Individualist or Romantic. #5. The Investigator or Observer. #6. The Loyal Skeptic. #7. The Enthusiast or Epicure. #8. The Leader, Protector, or Challenger. #9. The Peacemaker or Mediator. The Enneagram figure has points called wings. These wings reach out to other numbers. The wings may be easier to understand by seeing the diagram. You can look up the Enneagram online or view a copy and detailed explanation at www.PhoenixRevelationsLifeCoachingSupport.com. 1 - THE REFORMER Enneagram Type One The Rational, Idealistic Type: Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic Type One in Brief One is conscientious and ethical, with a strong sense of right and wrong. Type one's are teachers, crusaders, and advocates for change, always striving to improve things but afraid of making mistakes. Well-organized, orderly, and fastidious, they try to maintain high standards but can slip into being critical and perfectionistic. They typically have problems with resentment and impatience. A Type one at their Best is wise, discerning, realistic, and noble. There is always the possibility of being morally heroic. Basic Fear: Of being corrupt/evil, defective Basic Desire: To be good, to have integrity, to be balanced Enneagram One with a Nine-Wing: "The Idealist" Enneagram One with a Two-Wing: "The Advocate" Key Motivations: The type one must be right, strive higher and improve everything, be consistent with their ideals, justify themselves, and be beyond criticism so as not to be condemned by anyone. Examples: Confucius, Plato, Salahuddin Ayyubi, Joan of Arc, Sir Thomas More, Mahatma Gandhi, Pope John Paul II, Nelson Mandela, Margaret Thatcher, THE HELPER Enneagram Type Two The Caring, Interpersonal Type: Generous, Demonstrative, People-Pleasing, and Possessive Type Two in Brief Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others but can slip into doing things for others to be needed by others. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best, they are unselfish and generous and have unconditional love for others. Basic Fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved Basic Desire: To feel loved Enneagram Two with a One-Wing: "Servant" Enneagram Two with a Three-Wing: "The Host/Hostess" Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves. Examples: Paramahansa Yogananda, Pope John XXIII, Guru Ammaji ("The Hugging Saint"), Byron Katie, Bishop Desmond Tutu, Eleanor Roosevelt, Nancy Reagan. I hope you have found this helpful so far. Please join me as we continue to reveal the Enneagram. And move on to be able to assess ourselves. So, we can want what makes our "true" self-fulfilled. And again, go to www.PhoenixRevelationsLifeCoachingSupport.com to view a diagram and detailed description of the Enneagram and its uses. So my friends, until next time. Thanks again for tuning in. And as always: Please remember to Love Yourself. You are Not Alone. You are relevant and worthy. How About that?