Episode Transcript
Episode 5 Are you sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired?
Hey guys, back again. I hope you are doing great and enjoyed your 4th of July time off.
As I previously promised, we will dive into the depths of Mindset.
What is Mindset? Mindsets are beliefs – beliefs about yourself and your most basic qualities.
I was trying not to sound clinical and dry, so here we go.
Like any story, we must start at the beginning or at least the initial causation.
Our core values are hard-wired feelings. Our Mindset comes from our feelings, and research suggests some feelings are genetic from our ancestors.
One such study included empathy. Fifteen years ago, a team of scientists at the University of Cambridge developed the Empathy Quotient (EQ), a brief self-report measure of empathy. The EQ measures both parts of empathy.
Empathy has two parts: the ability to recognize another person's thoughts and feelings and the ability to respond appropriately to someone else's thoughts and feelings. The first is called 'cognitive empathy', and the second is 'is affective empathy.'
So you can see if someone doesn't care how others feel or don't know how to respond to others' feelings, this can cause an undesirable mindset.
And depending on how much interaction they have with others, the effects can be horrible.
On a side note, knowing your core values and anyone else you want to interact with is essential.
Some people may believe that someone else isn't worth considering. In comparison, others may not know how they affect someone but are willing to learn and change.
So anyway, Mindset. Beliefs are gained by parents, culture, environment, and our time in history. Without a conscious effort to modify our beliefs, we can spend ages eight to eighty and feel the same about everything.
I want to present three critical perspectives about Mindset.
Neuroplasticity, fixed, and growth-type learning are the ones we will explore.
Neuroplasticity is the ability of the nervous system to change its activity in response to intrinsic or extrinsic stimuli by reorganizing its structure, functions, or connections after injuries, such as a stroke or traumatic brain injury (TBI).
That is a mouthful.
An easier way to think of this is like a trail in the woods. As more people walk the same trail, it becomes worn. Or, like a thin rut where wheels have worn, this becomes a path of least resistance.
At this point, we are not thinking, just doing.
A new avenue will make a new trail. We change our state of thinking the same way. Some of the ways you could promote neuroplasticity include:
Take new routes. Every new experience can enhance your brain's ability to change.
Move. A 2018 literature review showed that physical exercise can promote neuroplasticity.
Practice meditation.
Learn a new skill.
Rest.
Carol Dweck has conducted numerous studies on Mindset. Carol Dweck has determined that humans dwell in fixed or growth learning mindsets.
The fixed learning mindset is like someone who learns Spanish to get a grade. Once they get the grade, that is it for Spanish.
The growth learning model is someone that learns Spanish, travels to Spain, Talks to every Spanish-speaking person they can, opens a store in Spain, and marries a Spanish woman. So one and so forth.
The fixed learner believes they are limited. While the growth learner believes they can learn something new as long as they are mentally able. The latter pursues Mastery but also understands that Mastery is not a destination but a life-long journey.
I have included a lot of information. All this will tie into the power of "No" as we combine all the tools. A master builder will use many tools to create their masterpiece.
You can see why no one can say I will act or do differently. And have immediate change. And in this, you can see why we cannot simply tell someone to change either.
Everything about our lives is an interwoven tapestry of actions. It doesn't matter if we move consciously with purpose or stumble on autopilot; the actions still occur.
The power of "No" is indispensable. It doesn't matter if you know what is good or bad for you if you can't say "No" to the bad and "Yes" to the good.
With all this mindset thing going on, it can seem confusing or overwhelming.
But it's not because an accurate core value evaluation and analysis gives us easy access.
If it's okay with you, this is why my Life Coaching approach achieves remarkable results as long as there is commitment and acceptance of the process.
You are correct if you believe you will succeed or don't believe you will.
Anyway, back to Mindset. I am not saying you cannot make it through life on autopilot. But I am reminded that a broken clock is correct twice a day. However, you would not want to set your schedule to that clock.
I don't know about you, but I saw a bunch of reasons to get off autopilot. And my life changed in every detail as I got better and better at not using autopilot.
When you can understand the principles of Mindset in yourself, you will see it in others because we are all human.
Communication on your job and with family and friends will be fulfilling and objective. You will understand why you should interact with some people while avoiding others.
You are now ready for the next chapter in your evolution. You are now ready to enter the world of effective communication.
I hope you have enjoyed our journey so far. And I look forward to chatting with you soon.
And as always:
Please remember to Love Yourself. You are Not Alone. You are relevant and worthy.
How About that?
