Episode Transcript
Great day to everyone. How are you doing and feeling today? I hope your week was great.
I want to welcome you to my podcast and thank you for your support. I appreciate you.
So here we go, podcast seven- Relationships.
Relationships are the bedrock of any society and an essential part of our lives.
But sometimes, we need to remember the most important relationship. I am talking about our relationship with ourselves.
We must have an authentic relationship with ourselves for several reasons; a relationship with ourselves means we must know ourselves.
We will know who we are and not what we do. We must understand what makes us happy, motivates, inspires, and makes us sick.
Before I knew myself, I had had stomach problems for most of my life. And my back would have terrible back spasms. Once, I was in bed for over a week because I couldn't walk. I finally made it to the doctor. I received all kinds of tests, and the doctor found nothing wrong. So all he did was give me pain pills and muscle relaxers.
Years later, I realized I carried emotional stress in my stomach and anxiety in my back. Health is wealth. I now make it a point to pay attention to me. I now keep up with what is happening; however, I feel.
You, too, can monitor yourself in the same way. You might find specific thoughts, places, and people cause you to react a certain way.
There are two great tools for self-evaluation. The most powerful is to look back on your life, pick some of the happiest and sadest times, and recollect what was happening, where it was, and who was involved.
Of course, it doesn't just have to be those particular things. It can be anything of your choosing.
However, these are two good points of reference because happiness and sadness greatly influence the quality of our health.
The second tool is a core evaluation test. This test will allow you to see your five core values; from this, you can better understand the hows and whys of your actions and feelings.
Sometimes our life choices cause us more harm than good. Then we spend time beating ourselves up and judging ourselves for poor performance or accepting these actions from others.
And nothing is worse than working hard to get a job, relationship, or goal and finding you are more miserable than before.
You can now see where I am going with this. If you want great relationships, you must know who you are. So you can give yourself what you need.
Choosing a mate with similar core values will decrease the possibility of arguments, infidelity, and disagreements. Health is always a concern.
Good connections and social support can improve health and increase longevity.
Healthy relationships with spouses, family, friends, and coworkers would be best. Of course, you do not have control over anyone else but yourself, so sometimes crucial life decisions must be made for your mental and emotional health.
Things like gatherings, getting together with quality friends, and participating in qualitative religious, community, and workplace activities.
Can offer support for you and the others present.
Quality Social connections like these give us pleasure and influence our long-term health in ways as powerful as adequate sleep, a good diet, and not smoking.
Harvard University and dozens of studies have shown that people with social support from family, friends, and their community are happier, have fewer health problems, and live longer.
Conversely, a relative lack of social ties is associated with depression, later-life cognitive decline, and increased mortality.
One study, which examined data from more than 309,000 people, found that lack of strong relationships increased the risk of premature death from all causes by 50% — an effect on mortality risk roughly comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day, and greater than obesity and physical inactivity.
What makes quality social connections healthful?
Scientists are investigating the biological and behavioral factors that account for the health benefits of connecting with others. For example, they've found that it helps relieve harmful stress levels, which can adversely affect coronary arteries, gut function, insulin regulation, and the immune system.
Other research suggests that caring behaviors trigger the release of stress-reducing hormones.
This is encouraging news because caring involvement with others may be one of the most accessible health strategies. It's inexpensive, requires no special equipment or regimen, and we can engage in it in many ways.
However, with all that said, the absolute requirement is quality, not quantity.
Because as positive as these activities and interactions are, you will produce the opposite effects if positivity is absent.
Only you know what you want in your life for you. You must learn and look before you leap. I love all people but avoid people I find toxic as much as possible. I do not have the right to tell them how to act, but I have the right to choose how I want to be treated.
Okay, all this sounds fine and well, but it's neither fairy dust, magic, or hoping that creates wholesome relationships with self or others. You cannot substitute Effective communication in a healthy relationship.
Listening is a great place to start. But listening is not hearing. Hearing means you listen with distraction, interruption, or judgment.
You should use Level Three listening, which always includes empathy.
Empathy means you seek first to understand and then be understood.
God gave us two ears and one mouth. Indeed it is twice as important to listen than talk. We cannot learn when we are talking. You will hear everything when a person can attend with their heart and eyes.
Many people who have suffered mental issues would and can benefit from solid social support by knowing someone cared enough to listen.
Everyone, including me, has often wished they were being listened to.
We all feel important, valued, and appreciated when we are attentively listened to.
And we do not value people that do not listen to us or us to them. Unfortunately, some people have attempted or taken their lives and taken the lives of others because no one listened.
Communication is more complex than it seems. A willing person can learn Communication. Genuine communication opens the door to beautiful relationships, happiness, health, and longevity.
But it also closes the doors on toxic people, places, and things. Only you can tell yourself what you want for you.
As you can tell, I speak from experience. I have stood on both sides of the fence. But as I learned and experienced both sides, I stood on the side of communicating and loving myself.
Some of those doors took a lot of work to close. And even when they were closed, I was tempted to open them again. But I always regretted when I did, but stayed happy when I didn't.
Our next podcast will introduce you to the power of "No." what good is excellent information if you cannot say no to the bad and yes o the good?
Well, my friends, thanks again for tuning in; until next time
And as always:
Please remember to Love Yourself. You are Not Alone. You are relevant and worthy.
How About that?
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"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom."–Aristotle. "In the end you don't so much find yourself as you find someone who knows who you are."–Robert Brault.
"One must know oneself. If this does not serve to discover truth, it at least serves as a rule of life, and there is nothing better."–Blaise Pascal.
"It is not only the most difficult thing to know oneself, but the most inconvenient one, too."–H.W. Shaw.
