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Happiness for humans is like sunshine for plants. Mindset makes happiness as accessible as sunshine. But how can we find our "happiness-sunshine?" And more importantly, how can we keep it? This episode reveals the secrets.
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Happiness is different for everyone. One person's "heaven" may be another person's "hell."
Social connections and material possessions are often considerations for happiness. Only happiness held from within is lasting and repeatable.
Happiness is unsustainable if it comes from outside of us. Happiness comes from our mindset. You have probably met happy people and wondered how they can be happy.
Some people seem to have every opportunity under the sun but are always miserable and complaining about everything.
For us to pursue happiness, we must first decide to be happy. Because whatever you look for in life, you will find. Happiness is a state of being.
Research shows through hormonal monitoring that humans derive greater pleasure from anticipating an event rather than from the actual event.
My Dad always said, "The chase is always more exciting than the capture."
We have all experienced the dissatisfaction of getting something we thought we had to have until we got it. We must fully realize who we are before we venture out for happiness and success.
Lions aren't happy eating lettuce, and rabbits aren't delighted eating meat. It's easy to become depressed when we achieve something we find to be worthless.
Impact bias refers to the tendency for individuals to overestimate the intensity and duration of their emotional reactions to future events. People often believe that a positive or negative event will impact their well-being more than it does, leading to inaccurate predictions about their emotional responses.
For example, someone may anticipate feeling extremely happy after receiving a job promotion. Still, the feeling may not be as intense or long-lasting as they initially thought. On the other hand, individuals may dread a particular event, such as public speaking, but later find that their anxiety is not as severe as they had feared.
The impact bias can lead to decision-making errors, as individuals may base choices on inaccurate predictions of how they will feel in the future. By recognizing and understanding the "impact bias," individuals can make more informed decisions and better manage their emotional responses to events.
Everything starts and ends with our mindset. Be happy with your intention.
Intention starts with mindfulness. Who are you? When are you happy? When are you sad? Are you around people who support your happiness? Do you know how to repeat your states of happiness?
Effective and thorough journalling can quickly answer these questions. There is no substitute for journalling during the self-realization process. Remember to keep your journal in a secure location. We often have thoughts that shouldn't be shared with everyone.
Our happiness is our responsibility; no one can give us lasting happiness. I think this is great. Because if you cannot control something as valuable as your happiness, it would be like waiting for someone's permission to breathe.
It's not what happens to us; it is our reaction to what happens. Miserable people want you to be miserable, too. Everyone has the free will choice to choose misery. But you have the option to be happy or unhappy. We must program ourselves to cultivate, accept, and maintain happiness.
We will consistently pursue happiness if we are disciplined, determined, and courageous. But the people, places, and things that do not support our happiness will make our desire for happiness difficult.
Here are some practical milestones. All of these have resonated with me at one time or another. I hope you find them helpful.
1. Positive thinking: Cultivate a positive mindset and focus on the good things in life.
2. Gratitude: Practice gratitude regularly by counting your blessings and appreciating what you have.
3. Build strong relationships: Surround yourself with supportive and loving people who lift you and support your happiness.
4. Pursue your passions: Engage in activities and hobbies that you enjoy and that bring you fulfillment.
5. Take care of your physical and mental health: Exercise regularly, eat well, get enough sleep, and practice self-care.
6. Practice mindfulness and meditation: Be present in the moment and cultivate inner peace and calm.
7. Set goals and work towards achieving them: Strive for personal growth and accomplishment to boost your self-esteem and sense of achievement.
8. Help others: Volunteer, give back to your community, and spread kindness to experience the joy of helping others.
9. Accept yourself: Embrace your flaws and imperfections, and practice self-compassion and self-acceptance.
10. Live in alignment with your values: Be true to yourself and live an authentic and meaningful life.
Never let someone talk you out of being healthily happy. Always remember no one should have the power to take or give you happiness because it leaves you powerless.
We are all concerned about data breaches and passwords. Why? Because we have things that we want exclusive control over.
What is more important, someone controlling you or someone accessing your personal information?
There are laws to protect you from identity theft. But it would be best to have your law to prevent mindset theft. If you do not own your mindset, you own nothing.
Happiness is your greatest gift to you. Please don't leave it to chance.
Thank you for joining me again. I look forward to many more interactions.
Here's wishing you Health, Happiness, Peace, and Productivity.
Until we meet again, remember always to be the best version of yourself. Love Yourself. You are Not Alone. You are relevant and worthy.
How About that?
