Episode Transcript
Podcast Episode Two.
Welcome to episode Two: Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?
I hope you are doing well.
As promised, I will explore the "Aha" moments: reframing and the way forward. So here we go.
Have you ever asked yourself why you can't stop some of the stuff you do? And telling our children to do the simplest things is like pulling teeth.
You cannot successfully tell any Human what to do.
There is a way, but you must be wholly committed to personal transformation.
And it would be best if you have a permanent change.
Everything starts and ends within you. If there is to be transformation, it can only come from within.
Firstly there will come the "Aha" moment. But no one can give you your "Aha" moment but You.
When you get a revelational "Aha," it is like seeing something that was always there. Everyone has experienced an "Aha" moment. But that alone is not enough for transformation.
The next leg of the stool is Reframing. Being able to see things in a different light is very effective. It's like a child that is labeled as "bad."
For instance, A child got punished for riding his bicycle off a constructed bike ramp and then crashed his bicycle.
But once reframed, the person can self-realize. And say, look how adventuresome I am. And I am innovative. I am self-motivated, and I have no fear.
You can see how one perspective would allow you to accomplish anything.
But the other would keep you from doing anything.
People will have a predetermined view of you through their life lenses. And you will perform to others' expectations. Then your actions will reinforce other people's opinions of you. You are creating a lifelong incumbrance.
Then the third equally as important part is the way forward. The track has to be precise, exacting, and time-constrained.
And all of it must come from within. But without the mirror effect, how can you do this by yourself? You won't.
So as promised, I will revisit one of the life stories I mentioned.
My Father tried to pour hot cooking grease on me as a teen. He also had the habit of attempting to belittle me. And would be highly damaging.
However, he would be complimentary toward me when speaking to my siblings when he would belittle my siblings.
Later I found out my Father was from a previous marriage and suffered from an inferiority complex, and had always felt the need to garner control, which is understandable.
That was my "Aha" moment.
I was always coming up with unique ways to do things. I was bored with doing simple repetitious things. I was innovative, creative, loyal, and undaunted.
I was labeled hardheaded. I never followed what somebody told me to do without personal evaluation. And would never tell on friends.
Once reframed, I realized I have admirable qualities, and I bet you do too.
But this was nothing without "The Way Forward." The first thing you must do is find yourself when you have never been allowed to be you.
It would be best if you had a Core Value Evaluation.
We all have three versions of ourselves. The person we portray to others, the person we wish we were, and the person we are.
Attempting to find out who you are is challenging.
And if you do not build from this foundation, whatever you create will eventually decay.
If you value "Family first" but are a risk taker and entrepreneur, you could have considerable internal conflict. Feelings of guilt will haunt you. You will never know why you always feel bad, even when doing good.
Define the way out. If the goal state is not clearly defined, there can be no clearly defined plan of attack.
If a person says, I want to lose weight. Or I will lose weight; they will not lose weight purposely.
However, if someone says I want to lose thirty pounds in ninety days, there is a defined goal, a time limit, and accountability.
You can construct this plan. And there can be accountability milestones.
If you are one-third the way through and have yet to lose one-third of the weight, you can easily adjust your plan. Additionally, you will be able to handle corrections without confusion.
Once you combine all of these principles, you will have a rock-solid plan.
I am sure you realize you are not out of the woods yet.
I have told you that you have all the necessary answers, techniques, and skill sets, then you are probably wondering why you have yet to change.
How could you use it if you don't know your inner greatness and cannot get at it?
It's time to stop blaming yourself and anyone else for where you are. You could be letting someone hold you hostage, for something they have already forgotten. And that someone could be you. You might be hiding behind a label that permits you not to help yourself.
I am sure from this angle; you need to feel fulfilled. You may be miserable as heck. Honestly, you have the right to do what you want for yourself. But once you get a taste, you will not want to return. And why should you?
There is a big difference between Mental illness and mentally afflicting yourself. Unfortunately, we don't always know the difference.
I hope you have gained some valuable insight. And I hope that you will join me on the following Podcast. As we continue our journey into the Power of "No." We will find and build from your inner Genius.
There will be additional webinars and programs with online access and support. Stay Tuned.
Please remember to Love Yourself. You are Not Alone. You are relevant and worthy.
How About that?
