Episode Transcript
What are you telling yourself about you and why?
Our conversations with ourselves start at a very early age. While they can become autonomous, (Fully automatic) it's important to remember that we have the power to change them. Automatic self-talk can be one of the most challenging things to overcome, but it's not impossible.
Living in a society that conditions its population into the illusion of inferiority or superiority based on birth is a harsh reality. However, recognizing this influence is the first step towards breaking free from these limiting beliefs. This realization can enlighten you and make you more aware of the external forces shaping your self-talk.
Inaccurate self-analysis will mean people of greater ability will not contribute significantly to their well-being and lives, and those who will cause the most harm will attempt to do everything.
By being realistic with yourself and critically evaluating your thoughts and actions, you can take control of your self-talk and your life. This self-awareness, this powerful tool, empowers you to shape your own narrative and steer your life in the direction you desire.
Of course, confirmation bias (only listening to things that are currently in your belief system) and disconfirmation bias (rejecting things that are not). It will play a significant role in our ability to be honest with ourselves.
There are constructive and destructive ways to do things. Some actions empower society, and others cause harm. The ability to be constructive and uplifting is never restricted to gender or ethnicity.
So, assuming you have some superpower or lack superpowers because of either of these references, is like thinking a red sports car of the same model is faster than a blue one.
Unfortunately, things like this are accepted norms that many of us have been poisoned with since birth.
Many people suffer mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually because they are not aware of the self-imposed prison, a state of mind where one's thoughts and beliefs limit their potential and well-being.
You are still poisoned, whether accidentally or purposely. Then, when you add predators with no humanity, individuals who exploit and manipulate others without empathy or remorse, you will be at a distinct disadvantage. And may come to believe this is the only way it can be.
There is a wonderful saying, "The proof is in the pudding." If someone insists they are superior, but their actions yield very different results from the quality of the words, ignore them. I had a good friend who would say, "Should I believe you or my lying eyes?)
In life, it is essential to apply the next set of rules when allowing someone to influence your life. These rules include: 1) Have they always shown themselves to be a good-hearted person? And not when they are trying to get something. 2) Have they always had your best interests at heart? And 3) Do they know their stuff? Have they shown consistent competency in their lives?
You will find a large percentage of people who we allow to lead and influence have none of the previously mentioned attributes. And if they are self-serving, we will always end up at a disadvantage.
Remember, we have no right to make a person change. However, if they cause harm to others, avoid harmful people like the plague. This is not about changing them, but about protecting ourselves and maintaining a safe and secure environment for our personal growth.
The predator will never willingly allow the prey to escape. In this spirit, we are forced to reverse-engineer our thoughts and lives. Firstly, we make a realistic evaluation of who we are. We can easily see by reviewing our past reactions and interactions. There is no shame in self-improvement. And we should never beat ourselves up. It's never a bad time to improve our life skills.
What do you want for your life? And is it conducive to your well-being and happiness? And most importantly, are you headed in that direction?
Unfortunately, it is very easy to get sidetracked, either purposefully or accidentally.
Our greatest asset is to "Keep it real." If we look at our past and see there are things we could have done differently to achieve better results, start now. But, more often than not, you will see where you have made it through. And that you can be proud of yourself as you look back.
And as we look back, we must be careful not to say, "Yes, but," Because the "but" is used to reduce your greatness into nothing.
Yes, I did great, but. Yes, I made it through, but. We find this same instance when trying to uplift or inform others, who refuse to change their current mindset.
Learn to separate feelings from facts. Reinforce the facts and let the feelings come and go without allowing any lasting effects. This practice can help you maintain objectivity and control over your emotions.
It won't be long before we become a more positive, productive, and happier version of ourselves. And these things are never a bad thing.
Well, my friends, here's wishing the best. So, until next time. Love yourself and embrace the new and improved you.
How about that?
